“I’m a better wife, mother, and physician for having had Video Mirror Feedback®.”
“Carlyn’s distinctive method enabled me to see aspects of myself that I was unaware of. Her skillful questions made it comfortable to welcome the new self-awareness that led me to make lasting changes in my professional and personal communication.”
Suzanne E. Mitchell, M.D., M.S.
Assistant Professor, Boston Medical Center
Executive Director / CFO and Health Care Industry Consultant
Carlyn is particularly skilled at making it a pleasant experience and effective. There was no critique, just steady, constructive support for clarifying my purpose, setting intention, and reaching my goals for more reflective communication.
Carlyn’s accelerated approach enabled me to replace an unproductive habit with an alternative productive one — fast. Within a few weeks of my consultation with Carlyn, the old habit was all but gone and three months later, it rarely shows up.
Carlyn’s perspective and abilities are invaluable for executives who want or need to rapidly strengthen their awareness of their impact on others and replace less desired behaviors with more effective alternatives that are still in sync with their personalities and values.
Karen Fifer Ferry, MBA, The Harwich Group, LLC
Former Executive Director, Boston Medical Center HealthNet Plan
Sales Consultant and Trainer
From skeptic to believer in under ten minutes! I long suspected that Carlyn’s Video Feedback Coaching would be a powerful tool – for other people; but now I count myself among them.
Within minutes I was able to identify specific mannerisms, thought patterns, and language that, with a slight change that Carlyn skillfully helped me practice, would improve my ability to close more sales.
Schedule your video feedback coaching session now. Whatever your business, you’ll be better for it.
J. Sheldon Snodgrass, MBA
Management Consultant & Career Coach
One example of Carlyn’s powerful and efficient work: In one of the viewings, I witnessed myself poking fun at something Carlyn had said. As my intent was not clear to her, she paused the tape and asked about it. When I said I was just poking fun, she asked me to look again…
To my great surprise, my facial expression hadn’t changed as my words became playful. My face remained as serious as it had been during my previous comments. Carlyn’s constructive approach made it easy for me to see why so many people have told me it’s hard to know when I’m teasing. I was then able to practice ways of letting them know. I now feel greatly indebted to Carlyn for her profoundly observant questions.
Jess Dods, MBA
Within three months of Video Mirror Feedback® coaching, I was hired for the job I wanted most of all. When I sought out Carlyn’s services, my professional confidence was at a low ebb due to a string of job rejections. I was relatively clueless as to how I came across in the interview setting, especially when it came to the intangible relational aspects.
Stung by a series of high finishes for high-level administrative and executive positions without an offer, I hired Carlyn twice to consult with me on a one-to-one basis. Then, wanting the full benefit of her expertise, I brought in several close colleagues for a mock interview, and asked Carlyn to serve both as a member of that team and to stay afterward to give me a detailed analysis of the video she took of the mock interview.
On all three occasions, Carlyn’s coaching skill impressed me enormously, including:
- Her attention to the less obvious and more subtle aspects of the “presentation of self” and her understanding of its implications and the challenges involved in change
- Her abilities in deconstructing my comportment and making nuanced suggestions aimed at subtle yet permanent change to deepen and refine my ability to authentically engage others in the interview process
- Her thorough and thoughtful knowledge of the interview process, backed by hands-on experience and effective “what-to’s”and “what-not-to’s”
- Her authenticity, and an approach that is never formulaic, and is integrally tied to the specifics of my personal situation and circumstances
- Her upbeat attitude, not at all “pollyannish,” and always sincere and caring
Carlyn’s thoughtfulness, firm yet gentle approach, and deep and abiding concern were all winning elements that brought forward not only new confidence, but a refreshed perspective in my job-search outlook and process.
For example, through her coaching, I found within me a “relaxedness,” even new touches of humor, that have buoyed my professional self-esteem and have enabled me to enter into interviews by presenting my full and real self.
Carlyn’s manner and style have helped me to present myself with less urgency, greater focus, and a fuller grasp of what it is I have to convey. I now know that what I have to offer in an interview situation is stronger than ever before.
Daniel Cantor Yalowitz, Ed.D.
Dean, SIT Graduate Institute
School for International Learning
New York Times Best-selling Author and Professor
“Who would benefit from Video Feedback Coaching?
I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t.”
Didi Firman, EdD, LMHC
Co-author, Chicken Soup for the Father and Son Soul
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Historical Detective, Public Speaker, Stone Mason
Carlyn, last night I delivered the new talk that I worked on with you. I am much more pleased with it than my previous one. The best advice you gave was to remove the first few slides. That really helped. I did not feel nervous. I made a few jokes and could feel the support of the crowd.
I am very thankful I rehearsed it several times with your Video Mirror Feedback®. If I had not, I would have been thoroughly dissatisfied. Thanks for all your help and expertise.
North Wind Stonework, Ashfield, MA
Psychologist, Consultant, and Professor
During my session, I became aware of a discrepancy between my words and feelings, but not only this insight. This form of seeing increases one’s ability to be proactive. It heightened my motivation to take steps toward change. There’s something about literally seeing oneself — it’s hard to ignore. I came away determined to follow through with changes.
I remember thinking about how useful it was. Weeks later, I was still thinking about the difference between seeing from the inside versus the outside. Our session increased my desire to use video in my clinical work. I’ve taken the first step and bought the tiny camcorder you use.
Pat Romney, PhD, Amherst, Mass.
Dept of Psych, Mount Holyoke College
Auto Mechanic (15 mos later)
I was worried about watching myself, but you made it comfortable to see for myself exactly what I needed to work on. A year later, I am still convinced there was no other way to get this insight except with your creative use of video and Psychosynthesis. Clear communication, better choices, and healthy relationships come more easily now.
John Hinckley, Chicopee, Mass.
Wife of Mechanic (above)
My husband has given me permission to tell you what I’ve noticed since his session. He hadn’t expected to see anything he didn’t already know. So he was very surprised at what he saw – things he liked and things he wanted to work on.
There’s been a lasting change in our relationship. He is more aware now of his body language and much more open to hearing what I say – especially when I am trying to get him to understand. I can now say to him, “This is how I’m hearing, seeing, and feeling what you are saying. It may not be what you mean, but that’s what I’m getting.” Which in turn allows us to explore the situation further.
Within a few weeks of his brief work with you, he decided to start seeing a therapist closer to home to work on some very old, very intense issues – finally – after over forty years of distress in almost every aspect of his life. I’m not sure he would have taken this step without the session with you. Thank you.
Lori Hinckley, College administrator
Writer & Poet
Carlyn’s approach has an aliveness and authenticity that I have not found with other practitioners. I could SEE the changes happening from week to week.
My sessions were powerful, meaningful, and effective. Video Feedback Coaching empowered me to finally make changes I’ve wanted to make for a long time.
Susan Bartfay, Conway, Mass.
Educator & Yoga Instructor
I was stunned to see how I squashed my feelings and reactions when I talked about my closest relationships. While I explored the recording with Carlyn, the repeating patterns in my thoughts and interactions became clear. New information for me!
My very first session unlocked a big piece of work for me. I spent the next two months uncovering related material, talking with my partner, and reading the books you suggested to deepen my new understanding. Thank you.
Lisa Enzer, MEd
Living Room Yoga, Montague, Mass.
Professor, Author, Family Therapist
Seeing oneself “live,” particularly with the assistance of Carlyn’s well-trained eye and fine coaching skills, is the most powerful way to understand how we communicate verbally and non-verbally.
I’ve been struck by how the results of my session have stayed with me month after month, as well as the efficacy of having the DVD so I can reinforce my “aha moments.”
Janine Roberts, EdD, LMFT
Professor Emerita, UMass
Yoga and Wellness Instructor
“Carlyn is witty, precise, detail-oriented, focused on results, and an overall blast to work with. I came to Carlyn because I wanted to be as articulate, concise, and engaging as possible in the videos I was producing for my site originalbodywisdom.com.
Carlyn not only gave me invaluable feedback on my practice videos, but she also guided me to a gem of insight about myself. She paused the video at moments where I expressed much less power and clarity. She helped me literally see that by falling back on old beliefs about my life, which I was doing out of habit, I inhibit the quality of my presentation and communication.
I now recognize that I can choose whether or not I fall into habits or not, and that when I choose not to, I project a more infectious confidence and trustworthiness on video — and in life!
Since Carlyn’s coaching, what people see on the outside is much more congruent with who I am on the inside.”
Donna Brooks, Northampton, Mass.
I’ll never forget the insight I got with Carlyn while watching myself describe how my mother had neglected me and acted unforgivably. I stopped the tape and said, “I can’t quite explain it, but seeing myself say these things from the outside talk opens the door to forgiving her. My heart feels open for the first time ever.
Opeyemi Parham, Putney, Vermont